How to Find Peace of Mind
When people talk about what they want to have in their life, either it is more money, creating success in their work, attracting a great relationship, having a happy family, or achieving great health, what they are essentially looking for is attain peace of mind. Having peace of mind remains the most important attribute that people are looking to have in their lives, since it translates to happiness and freedom from worry, stress, fears or anxieties.
Is there really a simple way to create peace of mind in your everyday life or is it something you have to strive for and not dependent solely on you? From experience I believe that peace of mind can easily be attained, once you understand and practice a certain attitude to life.
Recently I was reading The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma and came across this great metaphor of how the mind works, that will help me explain the steps you need to take to attain lasting peace of mind and harmony in your life.
Think of your mind as a rich garden that you are taking care of. As the gardener of this fertile and beautiful garden of your mind, you would want to guard your garden from any contamination or toxic waste entering it.
You would make sure you pull out any weeds, throw out any trash and help the ground stay fertile so that your garden will blossom. Most people however treat their mind in exactly the opposite way. They fill the garden of their minds with toxic waste and trash daily. They don’t take out the weeds and don’t clean it from trash and contamination.
Worries and anxieties, being stuck in negative events of the past and having fears about the future drain your mind so much of its power, like letting toxic waste enter into your beautiful garden that you want to see blossoming.
To be at a state of peace and harmony and be able to live life to its fullest potential, you must guard your mind and let only the best information enter it.
The average person runs approximately sixty thousand thoughts in their mind every single day and 95% of those thoughts are the same ones that you thought yesterday and the day before. If most of these thoughts that you are thinking each and every day are negative, then you have fallen into a bad mental habit.
Rather than focusing on all the good things in their lives and thinking of ways to make things even better, most people are stuck in the past. They worry about failed relationships, failures in work, financial problems or problematic childhoods. Others even worry about little things such as the comment of a mean co-worker or what other people think of them.If you let your mind fill up with these draining thoughts daily, you are blocking its enormous potential.
Your mind has the power to bring into your life everything you have ever wanted, emotionally, physically and spiritually, if you learn how to manage it. How you manage your mind will reflect on how you manage your life. Mental mastery and life mastery come through thought conditioning. Essentially, peace of mind is all about mastering your mind. People who live their fullest potential and are at peace, are the ones who adopt a positive attitude for the world and everything in it.
We cannot control the weather or the traffic or the mood of other people around us, but what we can definitely control is our attitude towards those events. We have the power to decide what we think about at each moment and how we process the events in our life.
An event that appears to be a tragedy or a crisis, might present the greatest opportunity to moving on to something better. In fact, every fall that you have taken in your life, up to this very moment, is something to be grateful for. Almost always advances that we make in our life that lift us to a higher place, come from a big fall that we have experienced, which pushes us to become better.
What separates people who are habitually happy, peaceful and optimistic from those who are consistently miserable, is how they process and interpret circumstances in their life. Learn to see the opportunity in every event in your life.
There are no mistakes in life and no failures, only lessons. There is no such thing as negative experiences, only opportunities to grow and expand your potential.
From struggle and pain comes strength. And how can you know the joy of being at the top of the highest mountain if you first haven’t visited the lowest valley?
Stop judging events in your life as positive or negative. Experience them, celebrate them and learn from them. Every event in life offers lessons and these lessons fuel your inner and outer growth. Without these events you would be stuck at a plateau.
Adopt a positive attitude to all events in your life and remember that when one door closes, another one opens.
If you apply this principle daily, you start to condition your mind to translate every event into a positive, empowering one and worry will go away forever. You will stop being a prisoner of your past and become an architect of your future.
Conditioning your mind has very powerful effects. Not only it will bring you peace of mind and harmony in your life, but you will also essentially be conditioned to attract more and more of what you want, and less that what you don’t want.
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Pavlina,
I enjoy your writing very much. Your work matters!!
David